What is mistaken for postpartum depression?

This is the state in which a young mother often finds herself upon arrival from the hospital. This is not necessarily a postpartum condition.

Sometimes the arrival from the hospital or the very stay there are fraught with very difficult experiencesa and use desirett. As a rule, these experiences turn out to be associated with one simple factor – reality turns out to be not quite the same as fantasies were. That is, the young mother’s ideas about what kind of mother she will be, how life will develop after childbirth and about the child may be completely unviable, and in reality everything turns out to be different.

Childbirth can often be a watershed moment for a young mother. For example, she wanted to give birth herself, but had to do a cesarean section. This is sometimes such a big disappointment for a woman that then everything goes somersault.

One of the most common causes of postpartum conditions is a rather frivolous attitude towards childbirth. Many girls and women believe that motherhood is some kind of instinctive thing, and after childbirth everything will turn out by itself, that it is not even worth preparing for the birth of a child. It’s not like that at all. Even in pregnancy, a woman should attend preparatory courses for childbirth, learn something, read books.

Another reason why a depressive state occurs after childbirth, in addition to those normal states when hormonal changes in the body, mood swings occur, is the child herself. A child is a “huge revolution” in a mother’s life. Habits change, plans change. Sometimes a young mother simply does not have time to change the rhythm of her life, she has a breakdown, she does not even want to get up and go to her child. Many begin to be afraid and ashamed of such a state, but this is completely wrong. This is a normal condition after childbirth, over time it goes away, you just need to wait and not give up.

How to deal with postpartum depression?

First of all, you need to prepare for a real birth, for a real child, talk with friends who already have children. You should attend mandatory courses on preparing for childbirth and becoming a parent, read literature, select the one that seems most informative and useful.

You do not need to look at pregnancy and childbirth through rose-colored glasses, motherhood should be perceived as a task that you will definitely cope with, and everything will be successful. Thanks to this, you will be almost completely protected from possible postpartum depression.

Here are some other very important aspects that can help with depression:

1. Attractiveness. It is very important to make time for yourself. For a normal emotional state, a woman needs to see her non-repulsive reflection in the mirror. It is clear that in the first months of a baby’s life, you need to devote almost 24 hours to him, but you need to try to find time for yourself. Enough and 15 minutes a day to carry out the necessary hygiene and cosmetic procedures. Also, clothing is an important part. Even home clothes should be practical, comfortable and beautiful at the same time.

2. It is necessary to hear and understand the child. Do not panic about the slightest cry of the baby, this is a natural development process that needs to be treated with understanding.

3. Help. You should not refuse any incoming help. This could be an offer to walk with a sleeping child or help around the house. The household should be involved in childcare and household chores. All this will allow the young mother to unload a little and relax. If possible, this item should be made mandatory,

4. Communication and leisure. There is no need to lock yourself in the house, trying to give all of yourself to the family and the child. You need to continue to meet with friends, arrange weekends “from everyday life.”

Depression can and should be treated.

If you feel that you cannot cope with your emotions, you can seek psychological counseling. It helps when the patient needs emotional support and advice to help find a way out of a difficult situation.